my bf went to his parents for the weekend, when he got back, i went through his inbox. i dont usually do this. but that day i really had this urge to do so. and so i saw that he has been texting with the girl he was pursuing before me. that girl did not became his gf., on the texts, he was just asking how she was, whats keeping her busy and all.. blah blah. it was about 10 exchange of text messages., of course i felt bad about it. should i be mad? i dont know how to confront him about it.
It doesn’t sound like anything serious, I wouldn’t be too concerned. He chose you over her and he was just having a friendly conversation. Now you just know to keep an eye out.
Hi. I have a boyfriend, we only met on facebook. Im goin to meet him in person but I'm afraid that he wouldn't like me. Because I'm not that pretty. What to do :(
I really advise on not meeting people through facebook and social networking sites. If you go through with meeting him bring someone with you and make sure someone knows where you’re at. But aside from that if he likes you, he’ll like you for you not what you look like
“If I could hold your heart I would keep it safe. Even when I trip and fall, and even when I break down, I would hold your heart close to mine, so it doesn’t see the same damage. When I bruise my knees and scrape my palms you’ll never have to fear, and even if I cry, I promise, you won’t need to shed a tear. Love is everlasting. Loyalty is intertwined with faith. As long as you want me I will be here, standing with my palms out, waiting with my heart plain in my eyes, and a smile on my face.”—Jennifer Varnadore (via psych-facts)
me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months. we started dating three weeks after we met. we are close, but it doesnt feel like he opens up to me as much as i open up to him. what do i do about this? i love hm with all my heart. and my dad tells me i could do better bc my bfs grammer isnt that well.. should i tell my bf my dad thinks that of him ?
Its normal for one of the people in a relationship to open up more than the other. If he has something to say I’m sure he’ll say it. And if he doesn’t communicate at all then i would take your dads advice.
Hi, for the last two years I've been bouncing back and forth between two guys and I've recently broke it off with both for good. I now feel very depressed and lonely, how do I meet new people and fill the empty space I feel?
I believe people come at the right times and everything happens for a reason. Considering that you feel the way you do shows you find happiness in other things and people. You should spend this time to find happiness within yourself and to learn to love yourself and then i guarantee someone new will walk into your life.
So I'm 30 years old and dating a guy who is 25., it appears that I'm more serious about this relationship then he is, he mentions his ex and tells me he loves her yet he couldn't be with her because of what shes done, yet he considers her his best friend. I feel he wants to be with me solely because I do have a lot going or myself and I'm respectful and not running through the streets. I feel like I'm not convinced that he really wants me. What does one do? I think he secretly wants his ex
From what you’re telling me I agree, but he is trying to be mature about it and move past it to be with someone he knows is better. I don’t know how long he has been out of that relationship or how long he was in it but I would give it some time.
There is this guy that I went to school with a while back and we started talking, he is everything I want in a guy. He told me that he likes me and I like him too. The problem is that I moved across the country.. is it even worth it? He said he is moving out here, but I don't know if that is just our fantasy or if it is an actual possiblity.
That all depends on your willingness to take on the challenge of a long distance relationship.
okay so my boyfriend and i have been kind off on and off lately ! he tells me he loves me and he wants to be with me for the rest of his life but we both know that will not happen .He lets me check his phone and his faceboook , people tell me hes been with other people but he says he dosent should i believe him or the people thats telling me ?
If you want to be with him, trust him. If you’re ready to separate, then separate. I can’t express to you how important trust is in a relationship. If it’s missing, the relationship won’t survive.
Hello, first of all I'm gay and my boyfriend isn't out to his family, because his dad is a pastor. When I asked him, if his parents told him to break it up with me, he said he would because he wouldn't have a choice. I can't help but be hurt deeply and I just feel like, is that it? like, can you at least fight for me? because I definitely will do it for him. I just don't know what to think, say or feel anymore. I love him so much and this topic breaks my heart and I'm in tears. T^T
I understand that feeling, completely. But understand that until you are married into someone’s family, that persons family will probably come first. In his situation, his family is probably very strict about holding a certain reputation to the public. This in no way is your fault. I don’t like recommending keeping things from parents because it is extremely important to communicate with them, but i would wait awhile. Don’t make him feel like he need to express his relationship with you to his parents if it isn’t necessary. His priorities will change with time but you have to get to that level of the relationship first. Don’t try and push your way past his family though, it will only cause trouble between the two of you.
i'm dating a minister and i like him alot and its been 2 months and he always says he loves me and i complete him he feels balance with me and i brought so much joy in his life.but his cellphone is always ringing he is always busy with the churches and it seems like he has no time for a personal life. what should i do keep holding on or move on
Anyone with a high position in their workplace will be busy and I don’t see that as a bad thing. “Holding on or moving on” should be determined by your feelings and not because of his time management.
I always like Im not good enough for anyone. Everytime I like a guy and feel like theh have feelings for me, it blows up in my face. I really want to be in a relationship but I dont know when that will be. What advice can you give me?
It’s definitely not that you are not good enough! that is never the case, never let that get into your head. You may need to look at your actions. The most common cause of “not being Datable” (don’t take that to your head, it does NOT describe you in any way) is the rush for commitment. I’m not sure you’re a woman, haha but i’ll assume. Often women tend to look for men or women that are willing to commit to them and fulfill all of their needs, Men are the opposite. Don’t scare him into a relationship with you. take things slow next time you meet someone.
Hi :) first of all i have to say that im not very good at english ( im from spain). I will do my best for you to understand me. I saw this guy for the firts time six months ago in a cafe (he is the waiter) and since then i went three times a week just to see him. But i dont see him for 5 months and now he is here again. He doesnt remember me and i dont know what to do to get his attention or to make him like me.
Continue to make your face a familiar one and he’ll start recognizing you. Just start flirting and letting him know you’re interested without scaring him away.
Okay! So i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost a month. The thing is people call him a player. I don't feel so 'cause yeah he likes me. But now when i finally, seriously, like him back I have a feeling he doesn't feel the same way as he did before , and its not even a month. I try talking to him but I feel its just getting worse. What should i do?
Well first off, its been a month. You dont know this guy very well at all. You can either wait around and get to know him and see if feelings grow or back away. Its that simple. I promise it won’t seem simple to you because thats what feelings do but your head will clear and you’ll make the right decision.
What I don't get about relationships is the 'nice guy complex'. It recently suffered from it and I don't understand why girls respond to nice guys in the way they do. I mean I would love for someone to come along and be as in love with me as I was with her. It seems my aspirations to be the 'perfect' boyfriend and if you like prove my love caused the break up, which I don't understand. Any light you can shine on the subject? Urban dictionary 'Nice guy complex' if you don't know what I mean :)
I definitely don’t think its you that is causing your own heartbreak, it might be the girls you are going after. Let me remind you that sensitive people are hurt easier, so that can be something you might look into for yourself. But as for the girls, there is better out there. I’ve noticed that it is common for the people who have been hurt before, to take those who have “the nice guy complex” (same goes for girls) and take on the “boss” role (if you will) and kind of take advantage as you said. When people receive this kind of power they abuse it. Just be careful and guard your heart. I know someone will come along and be just as in love with you as you are with them. It just takes time, patience and a confidence.
Boy Advice: I met this guy a month ago and he lives across the road from me. We spend almost every night together in his garage talking, sometimes until 1-2 AM. He'll take me for 2 hour long drives in his truck just because he can. And he teases me a lot. But he hasn't shown any sort of evident flirting? Could he like me?
He might have “friend zoned” you if he isnt flirting. Test it by making the first move. Flirt with him and read his response
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We met, and I fell in love with him. (2yrs online friends, dating after visit),It's been a little over a month since then, and I'm losing feelings for him.. what can I do to get them back? :l
Ask yourself why you are loosing feelings. What’s causing them to go away? is it you or him? if you can change it, try to do so. If you can’t, let go…
hi me and my boyfriend are in relationship about 6month but nothing is going right i love him but he keep saying that he don't love me and he think he'll never have feelings for me so we breakup 3weeks later he called me and he say that he went to look for me at my house but i wasn't there so i give him my phone number so he can call me. he called me last time and ask me what do i want and i tell him i wanna be with him even if i know that he don't love me now i feel stupid. help please!!
you can’t force him to love you. I think you should try to move on to keep yourself from getting hurt any more than he already has hurt you.
been in relationship 5 mo.. He says i am beautiful and incredible. He moved in and out in a month-said he felt overwhelmed not ready for that sort of commitment- he is not calling much. He says he loves me and doesn't want to see anyone else but doesnt want a serious realtionship. He barely calls. Do I confront him or just ignore him and wait until he text or calls
why don’t you give him some space. He probably needs his alone time to do some thinking. He might be scared of the feelings he’s feeling and isn’t ready to experience them. Let him take his time and don’t rush him into anything.
After a year of doubts I finally started getting closer with this guy. He's amazing and was really interested in me, I was just worried about his Casanova reputation... But he seemed to be serious about me, so we've texting to each other lately, flirting and planning a date. And then he didn't show up for the first date! No calls or messages. I'm really hurt and offended, but on the other hand - this guy has never been a jerk, I just don't get what happened! What do I do???
Don’t message him, don’t call him, don’t talk to him. If he wants you, he needs to chase you. And as for you, keep your options open.
i really like this kid. we text all the time, and acts like he likes me by what he says. but anytime we are in public he acts like i'm not even there... so what do i do? is he to shy and just wants to hangout alone? or is he just leading me on...
Maybe he is just shy… He may be expecting you to make the first move. try it!
Me and this boy used to like eachother but then he got a girlfriend. I still really liked him and in think he still felt something for me. He cheated on his girlfriend with me and now they've broken up but were not as close as we used to be but we still flirt! I don't know whether to go in for it with him or wait and see what he does? but we've been on off for about a year! Help!
Just because someone cheats doesn’t necessarily mean he feels something for you. Be careful he sounds like he might hurt you to me.
i need your help, please. I'm unsure as to how to deal with a situation I'm in. I have a boyfriend that ive been dating for three months. We get along but have differences that i feel get in between us. Things like he talks so little compared to me and I'm more out there where as he just likes to be quiet... completely different personalities. Ive had a crush on someone for a year now but he had never said to me that he liked me cause he had a gf... he likes me, we get along well im unsure help
I don’t see the problem with being different. Opposites attract and it makes your relationship much more interesting. As for the talking and interaction, most boys aren’t as talkative as girls and if he’s shy, then you need to be his out-going side. You should be his other half.
over the summer me and this guy messaged an flirted almoast everyday, and i was going to ask him out but there is a couple of problems. he is almoast 2 years older than me and we've never met. my bestfriend and him are friends and she says that we would get along well, but he lives on the east coast and i live on the weat coast.
For the first problem, age would only be a matter of how comfortable you are with dating someone older. And for the second issue, it sounds like it would be pretty tough to meet this guy, but how much do you trust him? And how well do you know him? Will you ever get to see each other? Will that bother the two of you?
I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. Everything was great in the beginning, I fell in so quickly. I got attached. Lately we've been off and on, and he was talking to one of his exs who is in a relationship, and they dated over a year ago. He's been having sudden mood swings, and it seems like I have to walk on eggshells when talking to him. Should I give up? Or should I stay? At times he's the greatest, and others he's not so much.
That’s a decision for you to make. Ask yourself somethings about him. “How deep are your feeling for him?” “Is he worth all the pain and effort you are putting yourself through?” “How long do you see yourself with him?”
I really, and I mean REALLY like this guy.. I've liked him since the beginning of the year and I found out that he was going to ask me to the school prom.. he always looks at me during class and whenever I catch him, he blushes and looks away.. I like him so much and I want to talk to him.. he's been talking to me a bit more lately but I want to become proper friends.. Help me
Just start conversation with. I say this all this time, communication is the key. Ask him questions about his life, learn about each other, and when you both feel close enough, ask him out (if he doesn’t by then, that is.) give him more attention like he is doing to you. Smile more, wave when you first see him. Let him know he has your eye.
there's this guy that i like but before i can actually approach and hint to him that i like him there's something that's been holding me back. i see that he's been talking with his ex gf. she's been posting on his wall and messaging him.he posted on her wall for her bday "happy bday have a great one but i bet uwon't bcuz u never come see me" and he posted on her wall "stop messaging me, i know your in love with me & want me back" so im kinda stuck on whether he likes her or not. what do u think?
If he told her to stop talking to her, then he might be getting annoyed with her. And if he’s single, go for it? This is your chance to prove to him that he needs a fresh start with you.
I like this girl and in Valentine's I gave her flowers and then i tried going on a date with her but she just keeps postponing. (P.S: We don't talk a lot and i have this feeling that maybe she ignores me)
Don’t be too pushy. You might scare her away. Don’t come on too strong just start slow.